Been busy so I haven't posted in a while. There is "family" issue (my side of the family) that's been bugging our "clan".

I always mentioned how blessed I feel to have my family and extended family, but well, I don't know of a family without a black sheep/bad apple or whatever you want to call it, in our case, it's not just one person, but almost a family save for the father (whom now the children have influenced, so I guess he's not an exception anymore) and the oldest son.

I have always read and heard of greedy, vile people, but never have I imagine that it will be one from - sad to say - a blood relative. I'd like to say they got it from the other side of the family, their mother, which is very true.

Since we were little, I have known that these cousins were not being raised with the values that we got from our grandfather and grandmother. Their mother has taught them envy, hate, and the "art of lying". They have made themselves the victims, they set themselves apart from the clan, yet complain that they are being secluded, that they feel they are not part of the family - (well, DUH, of course not, you kept your distance).

A while back, I mentioned that they are very lucky in that aunts, uncles and other cousins support them - have helped with the education of the four of them (two graduated; the other two, well, their priorities were different -party, night out, boys, etc, suffice to say they never finished college). Aside from education, whenever they need money, they just call one of their dad's siblings they'll be given some. And yet, one of those cousins would say that since they were born they never have experienced good life.  Good life? I say, that's cushy.  They just want hand outs.

The thing is, they take for granted those "assistance" that was given to them.  Their mother tell them that is their right, that it's an entitlement - they are entitled to such.

A lot of clan members have helped them get jobs and yet their mother and even them, would say that it was their effort, thus, not acknowledging the help given to them.

They can't keep jobs because they are not used to hard work.  They'd rather boast how rich they are, which is untrue, than strive to really become a family of means.  The two female cousins are social climbers, liars, and filled with envy.  They have such high regard for themselves that they are constantly disappointed in their life. 

I have never... hated (for lack of better word) anybody like I do them.  I would like to shake them, and slap them so they wake up and see how lucky they are.  But it's ingrained in them, and I don't think they would realize that.

I hate that they are not doing things for themselves, and they blame their circumstance to other people.  If at all, my cousins should blame their parents for not providing for them - for not guiding them when they were growing up so they would do better when they are older.  What did they learn?  Again, envy mostly.  And then hating other cousins/relatives who are in a better circumstance than theirs.

Well, there might be no sense in this post, I'm just venting.   I just couldn't understand (rhetorically) why people complain that they are poor and in the dumps when they are not doing anything to help themselves.   I don't mind helping those who help themselves, but I don't want to waste my time helping those who only want handouts.  "Give someone a fish, you feed them for a day, but if you teach them to fish, you feed them for life".